tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8452076560635353634.post2901222737728080745..comments2023-10-12T06:05:41.794-07:00Comments on OXYCONTIN and OPIATE ADDICTION-A Mother's Story: Suboxone and SobrietyDebby of Oxycontin and Opiate Addiction: A Mother's Storyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14881167853310152283noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8452076560635353634.post-8291136069532907372008-11-28T18:56:00.000-08:002008-11-28T18:56:00.000-08:00His pain is your pain.He likes drugs, it's you who...His pain is your pain.<BR/>He likes drugs, it's you who hurts.<BR/><BR/>He sees that looking at him in the way that you see him hurts you, so he tries to show you himself differently.<BR/><BR/>What hurts him is knowing that he's hurting you; <BR/><BR/>you hurt because you think that he's hurting himself.<BR/><BR/>But he likes it.LazerusPaladin@aol.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09341923941364759746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8452076560635353634.post-3923898848467840132008-11-24T08:14:00.000-08:002008-11-24T08:14:00.000-08:00Unfortunately, Debbie, as a non-addict I am sure "...Unfortunately, Debbie, as a non-addict I am sure "your solution" is that he just needs to stop using drugs and he will be everything you thought he once was or would be......you keep looking for him to wake up one morning and be everything you wish he would be.....it's not unlike finding out your son has schizophrenia or epilepsy....only with those illnesses you would have by now faced the reality of his disease and realized the limitations of them. You would have reconciled that there will be some things in life he will never be able to do--like live without medication or the symptoms of those illnesses--and found a way to help him make the most of this card he was dealt.<BR/><BR/>Unfortunately, with addiction society tells us that all a person has to do is stop using drugs and everything will be just as it was before addiction. <BR/><BR/>Addiction is about what happens to someone when using drugs has become the least of their problems. Your son will not magically become what you THINK he should be just because he stops using drugs....only non-addicts see it this simply. As a society our whole focus is about ending drug use, instead of TREATING addiction. Only addicts know the truth, that if it were that simple there wouldn't be any need for rehab, meetings or medications to treat addiction.<BR/><BR/>I understand wanting more for your son and wanting him to make the most out of his life, but until you introduce yourself to the SON YOU HAVE instead of trying to make him the son you want him to be and stop ignoring his struggles instead of pretending that he will magically wake up one day and be cured---until that day you will be wasting a lot of time that you could be using to just LOVING him.<BR/><BR/>An active drug addict has a pretty good chance of not making it to a ripe old age--do what it takes to help him live a good life-but realize there is only so much you can control. Enjoy the little things--this is something you will NEVER regret if you loose him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8452076560635353634.post-21887207344074091232008-11-24T07:31:00.000-08:002008-11-24T07:31:00.000-08:00Me again... As I read through your comments I saw ...Me again... <BR/>As I read through your comments I saw that you wrote that you don't know what it is like to be addicted... For good or for bad, that is one thing I know too well. I'm not trying to drum up business-- but I am trying to write a book that captures the personality factors that came together in my own addiction-- the ones that I have since learned are dangerous. Some traits I once saw as assets turned out to be liabilities. I give the short version of my story at one of my web sites-- you will find it here: http://wisconsinopiates.com/index_files/junkie.htm <BR/>Please use the links there to contact me if I can be of help.<BR/><BR/>Jeffrey T Junig MD PhD<BR/>fdlpsychiatry.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8452076560635353634.post-18453450800193732212008-11-24T07:03:00.000-08:002008-11-24T07:03:00.000-08:00I wish you and your son the best, Debby. I am in ...I wish you and your son the best, Debby. I am in recovery from opiate addiction myself-- lost my anesthesia career to addiction before becoming a psychiatrist. Suboxone isn't perfect, but if used correctly it can be more than a band-aid. Unfortunately, the information from most of the 'recovery boards' is usually driven by emotion, rather than by medical experience. Please read this article and tell me what you think: <BR/>http://suboxonetalkzone.com/?p=747 <BR/><BR/>Take care.<BR/>Jeffrey T Junig MD PhD<BR/>Suboxone Talk ZoneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com