Wednesday, February 4, 2009

One Gem of a Blog Post

I wanted to update that my son tested as clean last night. The three of us cheered, in joy. FYI-- we are aware that addicts are known to keep urine stashes and to switch them. We make him test in our bathroom and check him beforehand.

As B and I hugged each other, he was trembling. "Mom, I want this (sobriety) so bad!"

As the mantra goes-- one day at a time....relapse is part of the recovery...let go, Let God, "The Three C's-- I didn't cause it, I can't control it, I cannot cure it".

Got it.

How I wish I had found this blog much sooner! The woman is a brilliant writer. LOVE her blog!
It appears that she's not going to blog for the month of February. I'm hooked.

I had to post one of her MANY insightful blogs on being the mother of a heroin addict. It spoke "VOLUMES" to me:

From: "Broken Hearted Mom"

My son has been a heroin addict for 8 years, give or take a year. Junkys have a hard time with chronological events. I know heroin. I know rehabs, paraphernalia, police cars in the drive, relapses, lies, dope sick, proper attire for inmate visits, counselors, social workers, and endless advice from people who don't know shit about heroin. I know that if your kid is addicted to prescription opiates or crack or alcohol, you are living a life similar to mine. Don't know much about meth, except that my son did it a few times when he couldn't get his drug of choice, heroin. He said he didn't care for it. How lucky am I!
If you came here by searching heroin, because you are in that frantic early stage where you think that by educating yourself, you can fix this, I give you the top ten ways you can tell your kid might be an opiate addict.

#10 You can't find at least one item of yours that had great sentimental value and cannot be replaced.

# 9. You sleep with your car keys under your pillow, and keep your purse under the bed.

# 8. You have received at least one inappropriate and shoplifted Mother's Day gift.

# 7. He doesn't have one of the Christmas or birthday gifts you've bought him.

# 6. All of your day is spent on his overwhelming problems.

#5. Everything has to be done RIGHT NOW

# 4. Your idea of rock bottom is his idea of another day in paradise.

# 3. You've had him jailed because you wanted him to be safe.

# 2. You sometimes believe that he can overcome this with your unconditional love.

# 1. Your head knows its not your fault, but your heart is broken.


Anonymous said...

I am so glad that he came clean. This is just the first step. I just hope that your son overcomes his addiction. I wish you and your son the best. You and your son are in my thoughts and prayers.

kristi said...

This is all very familiar. I have 3 blogs. One is about my nephew who was addicted and is now in prison.

My Daughter's Addiction said...

I'm so happy for you. My thoughts are with you. Is he still using the suboxone?

goddessdawnie said...

Hurray! I am very happy to hear that his test came back clean. My brother abused drugs and spent five years in prison -- AFAIK he has been clean since his release, and part of his parole included regular testing for three years, which has now ended. I hope your son will be able to beat his addiction!

Anonymous said...

Brokenhearted mom is one of my FAVORITE bloggers too.

Lou said...

Thanks for the acknowledgement! I found your blog awhile back & then couldn't find it again.

Enjoy this clean time with your son! And may it continue!! The fact that he has an interest (golf) is very positive. That can be a great sobriety tool.

I go to Celebrate Recovery & AnAnon, but I love my CR group. You are doing what you think is best for your situation, and that is all you can do. I feel people should seek information, but in the end, go with your gut.